28 Jul Birds of a Feather
We’ve all heard of the phrase, maybe even used the phrase. ‘birds of a feather flock together.’
The saying is definitely true but can be very cliche’. At times it’s used in a positive connotation and at times it is used in a negative connotation.
Everyone who you call friend and/ or spend your time with is a person who you have something in common with you.
Everyone who you spend time with shares all of your interests and therefore all of your actions are relatable to one another.
This has been on my mind for years. When I began speaking on Ambition and desiring to be an entrepreneur, the idea of the 5 people who spend the most of your time with shape you began to to play in constant rotation in my mind. Then it was reinforced the more that I thought about it that I would be judged by the actions of those who I spent my time with.
This was a struggle for me! Why? All of my life I’ve had segments of friends. I have some friends who are my really great friends are I can truly do anything I desire with them. I also have food friends, business friends, fitness friends, party friends and intellectual friends. I am a multi-faceted person, so my relationships reflect that. Some fall into multiple areas and some are contained in to their one position.
So where does the struggle come in? That comes with knowing people and having relationships with people participating in behaviors that you know you would never want to be associated with. How do you judge someone for sinning differently thank you? How do you remain friends with some who has never done anything to you but their reputation is tarnished and you don’t want the blacklash of their actions? That is the struggle.
Today I don’t have an answer. I’m searching for it. I will say that I’ve have some revelations that have come with me searching for a sufficient answer and with my maturity. For now these will have to serve has my answers until I can really understand.
- I define me.
- Sometimes you support/ love a person, not agreeing or condoning their behaviors.
- People have friends for segments of their life
- You have to be conscious of your surroundings and the situations you are placing yourself in. Does that mean that you can’t be friends with certain people? I won’t say yes or no to that.
- You don’t have to answer to everyone BUT remember that perceptions are sometimes that only realities that people will gain of you.